Ever wonder why some people can use constructive criticism yet others seem to only be able to negativaly reprimand people? Do some choose to be only harsh?
I think sometimes it's just a habit. In example, I try really hard for constructive criticism, and if I'm writing it I feel like I succeed most of the time. But if I'm giving it verbally, I almost always feel like I used the right words in the wrong places, or my body language was off, or whatever, and so came across as just being negative - when that wasn't my intention at all. It's something I hope I'll have more of a handle on before Yonah gets old enough for it to really affect him.
Thanks for being authentic Brenna. I totally acknowledge your position. Perhaps I should try to put myself in the person's shoes giving the negative criticism...
Yikes-I'm not sure all people intend to be harsh, but I do believe giving postive correction is something to be practiced and modeled (speaking as a parent.) I know that I, personally, am often perceived as being harsh and that is not my intent. I have to work at it. I apologize if my harshness has ever overshadowed my loving correction to anyone that may read this.
I think sometimes it's just a habit. In example, I try really hard for constructive criticism, and if I'm writing it I feel like I succeed most of the time. But if I'm giving it verbally, I almost always feel like I used the right words in the wrong places, or my body language was off, or whatever, and so came across as just being negative - when that wasn't my intention at all. It's something I hope I'll have more of a handle on before Yonah gets old enough for it to really affect him.
ReplyDeleteThanks for being authentic Brenna.
ReplyDeleteI totally acknowledge your position. Perhaps I should try to put myself in the person's shoes giving the negative criticism...
Yikes-I'm not sure all people intend to be harsh, but I do believe giving postive correction is something to be practiced and modeled (speaking as a parent.) I know that I, personally, am often perceived as being harsh and that is not my intent. I have to work at it. I apologize if my harshness has ever overshadowed my loving correction to anyone that may read this.
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